Minors in kink...
That is a big concern for many including myself. When speaking about the subject there is an overwhelming amount of people who do NOT support this...and then you encounter those who do.
BDSM is by definition a lifestyle practiced by consenting ADULTS. That should end the discussion right there, but it doesn't. An adult can consent to activity that is sexual according to the law. Not a minor. Therefore minors in kink is against the law if practiced.
There are those who argue that Cgl is not sexual and that age regression in minors is okay. Yes, it is possible to have a Caregiver/little dynamic that is not sexual. Yes, there are minors who do regress to a younger age when confronted with difficulty in life or to escape for a moment, but when does an adult or another minor caring for a minor go from Mentorship to grooming? When does regression at such a young age without the supervision or recommendation of a therapist start to become a hindrance to their growth?
I am NOT a therapist, counselor or a psychiatrist. I say these things as a person who has worked with children in a mentoring role. I have always made a point to hold a line between mentor and that point when a minor gets a little too comfortable. It's then that you have to be mindful of their mind state.
There are people out there taking full advantage of the fact that minors are VERY impressionable. They are young people just coming into their own and that can be scary for them. They may even be young people who have been abused. It doesn't matter how many years you have been a Dom(me), it is your responsibility to allow them to grow as an individual FIRST and foremost before introducing other aspects that can become confusing for an ADULT let alone a minor. The best thing you can do is to advise them to wait... There's no rush. If you are concerned about them falling into the wrong hands of a dangerous Dom(me), be a role model of what a Dom(me) should be, teach them about red flags in general, because honestly, we should ALL be concerned about our youth in this world.
If you are a sub, again, I advise that you wait. Life isn't a race, it's a marathon. Be educated on the dangers that are out there not to scare you, but to make you aware that this is not just a hobby or fad, there are people out there who prey on minors who want to be in the lifestyle.
There is a thin line when it comes to addressing this subject. One of them is whether to engage at all when you encounter this type of situation. No one needs legal trouble. If you feel you can walk away, do so. Maybe the individual is someone you actually know. Family, friend's child, someone you have encountered online unknowingly (it happens)...etc. Walking away might not sit so easy.
Try the stop, wait and learn...
Stop - BDSM is for Adults by definition
Wait - There are other things that need to be taken care of before adopting a lifestyle. School, friends, family, growing into an individual
Learn - become educated in not just the "glamor" of BDSM, but also and more importantly, the dangers that are inherent in such a lifestyle. The people that can be encountered, the emotional and physical harm that can come from it for someone who is JUST starting on their road to getting to know who they are.
Though minors may look at the lifestyle and think it's something fun, cool, or even sexy...it's no place for someone who is not an adult and is just getting themselves together mentally, physically and emotionally. To take on a minor as a sub or promote a minor engaging in kink is doing them a disservice, putting them in danger and opening door for a very serious problem for all involved.
Jubilee Johns (She/Her/Hers)
Creator of Middles Online Clubhouse
Jubilee has been writing her own creative works for more than 30 years. She has been in the BDMS lifestyle since 2017 and has loved every moment of it with her Daddy Dome Naughty Daddie
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