A submissive in BDSM can express themselves in many ways! There are so many personalities and preferences for people to enjoy. People should be able to practice and experience being a sub in ways that allow them to express themselves how they see fit in a safe way. This looks different for everyone. Let's talk about how a particular section of submissives called "middles" identify in BDSM and how that may influence you!
What is a Middle?
A middle is an individual in BDSM who relates in age regression to the general age range of 12-17. A middle may age regress in the scenes they are in with their partner or by themselves in what is called middlespace. Middlespace is a place where you may experience the full feeling of being in this age range. That looks different for everyone. For most is a place of comfort and release. We may also feel middle all of the time and therefore have levels in which they are "adulting" though still behaving in a middle manner. Remember, we are all different people with different experiences. How one person was at the age of 14, another person could have been the opposite. A person may seem to be "adulting," but in actuality are just a more mature behaving middle version of themselves.
Some of you may be familiar with littles and ABDLs (Adult Baby Diaper Lovers) in BDSM. These sections of subs are usually the face of age regression. You can see photos, posts, Instagram accounts and more reflecting the images and personalities of littles and ABDL online. These images can consist of diapers, pacifiers, pink/blue, pigtails, stuffies, chicken nuggets, bedtime stories, arts and crafts and other such activities. There are middles who enjoy some of these things as well, but maybe not in the same manner as a little or ABDL would. We may collect stuffies, but do not wear diapers. We might enjoy chicken nuggets, but not on a baby plate.
Middles in BDSM are generally more independent than our counterparts. We see the world as something we want to conquer in some cases. We want to explore the world and see what's out there. We want to learn and grow. We don't mind having responsibilities. With all of that and more, we also want to be taken care of when we feel we aren't able to do so ourselves. We want to know that there is someone there who will keep us safe when we need it. Middles want to have fun and be silly with someone who understands that this is who we are, getting it done one moment and down for a tickle match, video game, science experiment, crafts, dance party and more when we are in the mood.
Middles are generally sexual. Those of us that have that desire (not all people do), can be very sensual and enjoy bringing spice into the bedroom! Middles are usually down for sexual teasing and being naughty. Those of us who enjoy the SM part of BDSM (Sadism + Masochism) might have some fun ideas running around in our heads about what kinky fun we want to explore with ourselves and/or our partners.
How do you know you are a middle?
Well you might be reading this and think, "This feels like me!" Ho do you know if this the category for you? First let's start with...labels do not define you. YOU define you. If what is listed here rings true for you or you feel as though you can relate in many ways, then SURE! If you want to claim being a middle, go right ahead! Just remember that all a label does is give you a way to find common ground with others who share closely similar interests, ideas, practices, etc in BDSM. You are not a middle and only a middle. You come with all of your life experiences, dreams, goals, personality and so much more!
If you have decided that middle is the label for you, well "Nice to meet you!" My name is Jubilee and I also identify as a middle! If you have decided that you do not relate to this at all, that is perfectly fine! It doesn't mean you cannot continue to explore this world of middles, little, ABDL, brats, prince/princess/royalty and the many other types of sub in age regression and discover more about you!
Where can you find middles?
Finding other middles is NOT easy. If you found this article, that is AWESOME! Be sure to share it with others. One of the tough parts about being a middle is that many middles don't actually know they ARE middles! They might be trying to conform their personality, image, and self perception to fit what they think others are expecting from them due to relating to a younger age group. They might feel as though they are a "fake little" or "fake sub." They might feel as though they just can't seem to fit in when the conversation starts to head towards baby talk in forums or group chats. They might not feel comfortable when everyone is talking about their favorite stuffy, but they wanted to talk about a cool song they heard on the radio. Due to some of this, they are hidden.
Finding a middle may not be easy, but it is NOT impossible. There are a few Facebook group that have included middles in their groups. If you are comfortable with Fetlife, you may run into a couple of us if you make mention that you are a middle and now that you are more familiar with what a middle generally is, you can explain and help others find themselves! You also have landed here. This online magazine is a place for middles to find a part of themselves and hopefully connect with others with interests in line with theirs or maybe even learn and experience something brand new!
Middles are the teens of the sub age regression world. We come in all different styles, looks, personalities, passions, life goals, etc. We are independent, playful, sexual (if preferred) beings, we need care, love and attention. We are hard to find due to the lack of knowledge and awareness of this section of subs in age regression, but middles in BDSM can help by letting others know who they relate are and sharing information with those who may not know where to start on their journey!
Please share this information if you found it useful, and like any term or lifestyle, there are no rules written in stone! Comment with your own experience, thoughts, or questions!
Jubilee Johns (She/Her/Hers)
Creator of Middles Online Clubhouse
Jubilee has been writing her own creative works for more than 30 years. She has been in the BDMS lifestyle since 2017 and has loved every moment of it with her Daddy Dom Naughty Daddie
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