In the CG/l world, as the "l" we have our own world we go into. Its a place were we are safe. It's a place where we may feel love, excitement, contentment...there are so many feeling that can come with this space in time. What is it? Why do we feel this way? How can we get to that space in time where we feel out most middle selves?
We have heard of littlespace, but let's talk about "middlespace"
What Is Middlespace?
Let's talk a little about littlespace first. It is probably the term you are more familiar with if you have been identifying as a little or even in your middle label, have moments of little. Remember, there is not right or wring way to be a middle. Just because you may feel little at times, doesn't mean you are not a middle. Some people call it being middle with little tendencies. However you categorize it is up to you!
So littlespace is that mental space a little goes into for a number of reasons. It can be after a scene. It can be after hearing a certain word or phrase. It can be a situation. It could even be a smell. Think of it like the feeling you get when you see an ad from when you were a child and it brings you warm and fuzzy feelings associated with that time in your life. Littles in little space are in their MOST little behavior for many. They could want extra cuddles. They might be extra playful. Maybe they want to do lots of little things and activities. Maybe littlespace makes them just want to chill with their stuffies with a paci and eat cereal.
For a middle, this can seem a bit out of character for us. Yes, being in middlespace might mean we want o hang with out stuffies, and we might even want to eat cereal and watch cartoon or play video games. The difference is generally like the difference between littles and middles. It's the behavior age that is different for the most part. Again, your middle activity could actually be very close or the same as a little activity, but that doesn't mean you are middling wrong, that's just how YOU middle.
Let's talk about what middlespace and why we might want to be there:
Why Do We Feel This Way?
When you go into middlespace, there is usually a high release of endorphins that are involved that push you there. You feel extremely happy. You can also feel playful. You can feel like you an do anything! You feel like you just ate a box of your favorite food/candy and you are on top of the world. This feeling comes with you maybe being a bit more in middle mode. Being in middlespace is definitely a nice place to be!
Leave it to the brain to give you the up you need, but also know that you can experience this at random times if you aren't paying attention to your triggers. Depending on how middle you get in middlespace, it's a good idea to get a handle on what puts you into middlepace. We middles might have an easier time than littles when it comes to blending in a bit more in middlespace, but it is never a bad thing to know about yourself and how you work!
How Can You Get Into Middlespace?
This is a somewhat subjective answer. Each person will more than likely get into middlespace in their own way! We might go into middlepace after a play scene. We might go into middlespace because their Caregiver did something amazingly nice for us. The important thing is just keep tabs on what gets you there! Once you are there, see if you or your Caregiver can time how long you stay in middlespace for certain triggers. This could help you put yourself into middlespace whenever you feel you need to be there, but also knowing how long it will last!
Are There Drawbacks to Being In Middlepace?
Some people can go into middlespace and snap back out when needed with no side effect. One moment they are in middlespace, the next moment they are back in their normal headspace and you would never know. What if you are not one of those people? If that is the case, it would be best to do as previously suggested: keep track of what gets you there and how long you are there for. This way you can try to make sure you are in a safe space when you do go into middlespace and also work on ways to transition smoother out of middlepace.
Have you ever heard of subdrop? This is being added since this can also cross over into the subject of middlespace. Subdrop in a nutshell can be described as the sudden drop of euphoria a sub may feel after hitting their highpoint of their space. This usually happens after extremely high levels of feeling. If you are ever deep in middlespace and riding that wave, PLEASE be sure to have an aftercare routine ready for you to either carry out yourself, or by your Caregiver. This very important as some people experience a deep drop in the endorphins which can cause deep feelings.
Aftercare is just a routine you may have that builds you back up after feeling very low from very intense feelings. This is a very short definition. Aftercare will look different for everyone, but it is important to have a routine and you may have different routines for different situations.
Middlespace can be a great headspace to be in for many middles. How you get there will be as individual an experience as you are! It can help you explore your middle feelings and also help you learn more about yourself. Sharing this space can be something you enjoy, or it might be a space you like to be in alone. However you experience middlespace, know that there is no way to be in middlespace, but you will know where you get there!
Jubilee Johns (She/Her/Hers)
Creator of Middles Online Clubhouse
Jubilee has been writing her own creative works for more than 30 years. She has been in the BDMS lifestyle since 2017 and has loved every moment of it with her Daddy Dom Naughty Daddie
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