You just got into BDSM! It feels great. You are discovering things about yourself that you didn't even knw was there. Maybe you are exploring sexual experiences. Maybe you are just researching and learning more about what a submissive is. Maybe you are learning about the different types of submissives. You might even be going on this journey with someone. You're getting a handle on things and you are thinkin that you are ready for a Dom(me). You would like to put into practice all that you are learning. Want to go on this adventure with someone by your side to guide you and mold you. Someone who can support you as you serve them in whatever capacity you have determined is you.
You are looking in forums. You are in chatrooms. You are on websites for people who are interested in kink..or maybe you aren't actively looking at all, but then...there they are! Someone wants to be your Dom(me)! You have vetted each other. You are a match thus far. You are feeling wonderful with your new Dom(me)! The feeling of having someone in your life that understands what you need. The feeling of giving them what they need in your dynamic is exhilarating...
But....
If it feels this good with ONE Dom(me)... imagine what it would feel like with TWO...!
So you are looking, or not looking...and you come across another Dom(me). This person hits your interested in a different way. They fulfill another side of you that you didn't know was there. This is such a good feeling. You are learning more and you feel as though you are in a state of constant pleasure...
But...
If it feels this good with TWO Dom(me)s....what about....THREE?!
You are probably seeing where this is headed. You might think, why would a sub go looking for another Dom(me) if they already have one? Why wouldn't you just be happy that you found someone and things are going well?
What was just described is a scenario labeled subfrenzy. It is when a sub (usually new to the BDSM lifestyle) seeks more Dom(me)s because of the exhilaration of being a person's sub. The person isn't trying to manipulate or hurt anyone. It is just the uplifting feeling that comes with being owned/in a dynamic.
If you have ever felt this way, know that is it NOT unheard of. You are basically overexcited about the new experience and like many new things, sometimes we can get carried away. The important thing to remember is that you are not a terrible person if you have gone through this. If you are in this situation, the best thing to do is to communicate with those you have involved. Let them know that you have not meant any harm. Let them know that your behavior was not appropriate and that you understand if they would not like to continue.
The best thing for any relationship is to own up to our actions no matter how much it may not feel good to do. The other people involved deserve the right to choose...
Also, having more than one Dom(me) may seem great at first, but if you are not organized and everyone isn't on the same page, that can quickly go from great to...not so great. Remember, communicate your feelings and keep in mind, your Dom(me) is a person too, with feeling and emotions. So though you might be riding along on the new Dom(me) high, there are other people involved in your journey.
Jubilee Johns (She/Her/Hers)
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Jubilee has been writing her own creative works for more than 30 years. She has been in the BDMS lifestyle since 2017 and has loved every moment of it with her Daddy Dom Naughty Daddie
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